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One friend brought up a message where a man had told her that because she was a ‘woman of size’, she ‘must suck good ****’. Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received.Cracked’s Alli Reed set up ‘the worst online dating profile ever’ and still received heaps of messages from men who wanted only to hook up with the terrible woman she had created.It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.However, Ok Cupid has many not-so-great users as well, and it’s not uncommon for women to have the misfortune of encountering them, and in the past, I have as well.And if you’re serious about finding someone, make sure you don’t come across as too aggressive. No means no, and you’re not going to be able to ‘convince’ anyone to fall in love with you, and reacting with anger and threats when someone isn’t interested won’t help you. Watch for any red flags, such as disregarding your boundaries and not respecting your feelings.When going to meet someone in person, it helps to suggest you both bring along a friend.497 people said that they wanted to meet me on Po F’s Meet Me feature.While my experiences here were relatively tame, that doesn’t mean it’s the case for every woman.
The messages were all nice, although one user messaged me three times.
In total, I received 34 messages, all of which were very nice.
I never replied to any of the messages, however there were a few men who messaged me twice despite that, in an attempt to get a response.
It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means.
Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). Insulting other women, while looking for a woman, won’t help your chances of finding someone. Don’t be this guy and send this as your first message to a woman.
This may help relieve the anxiety of the other person, plus it’s a safeguard for you both in case something happens.